so just wondering, when setting up a new tank... lets say for example my friend is doing a water change, and i take the water he takes out and out that in my tank would that help it cycle quicker since it already has bacteria and stuff in it?
The thing that sucks is that everything just takes time... I bought all uncured rock and let it stink up my home for a couple of weeks. now every thing is great. I didnt do any water changes or anything. I just set the rock in my sump and let nature do it's thing. It took about 6 weeks to get clean. Once this happened I started doing weekly water changes for 6 weeks, then bi-weekly, and now I am monthly. I also used all live sand.
Time is your best friend here, the more you have the better off you will be in the long run. I let my tank cycle (rock cooking) for around 16 weeks before I added sand to it and 20 weeks before I put animals in it. I wanted to be sure that I had as much stuff out of the rocks as I could get before I put the sand in so it didn't get sucked into the sink. I used a mag36 at point blank to blast the stuff out of the rocks. It worked very well, much better than sloshing it in buckets.