yall need to get Mirc. If you are doing IRC with the Java version. go to www.mirc.com and download the free version. Then when you set it up just make sure you are clicking on a "Random Xnet" server. its not overly hard but well worth the trouble if you ask me. Also very customizable, and you can visit multiple rooms at once if one is dead you can look around elsewhere.
I kept getting shut out too, but I'm having trouble with everything right now. I deleted everything AOL I could find on my puter but it had its' nasty little tentacles wrapped in everything....Aiptasia OnLine LOL