Hi Patman.
Nice looking clams.
Tridacna derasa, right?
To elaborate on what's already been said...
Gaping is when the clam seems to be tearing its own shrivelled flesh apart between the two 'gaping' shell-halves. Largely an issue of malnutrition. Your clams are looking good, and like dbman has already posted, the incurrent/inhalant vent is normal in aspect.
Regarding your second question... clams don't zap each pther when in contact. One small problem with keeping them close together is the convenience offered to potential parasites and pathogens.
They do need food, quite apart from good light to fuel their guest zooxanthellae. In many mature tanks, there's so much biodiversity that there's enough plankton in the water for the clam to filter out and dine on.
Otherwise, a clam can appear healthy for months, and then rapidly decline once its energy reserves are depleted. Some authors claim that zooxanthellar nutrition accounts for only up to 65% of a clam's energy needs.
I'm sure there are some commercial plankton preparations you can study and then acquire, for infrequent feedings. Otherwise, you can just ensure good rock and sandbed biodiversity.
hth,
horge