Typical Retro Setup includes:
MH:
Ballast - I recommend IC250 Electronic
Bulb - Really your choice when its all said and done
Reflector - Luminarcs are popular for SE bulbs, assuming that it fits in your canopy
Misc - Power Cord, wires, connectors, screws, brackets etc for mounting
VHO:
Ballast: IC660 or 430, I would spend the extra and get the 660 for later upgrades etc.
Bulbs:
URI Super Actinic have been the standard
Misc: End Caps, Stand Offs, and Wires, Powercord
It really depends on your preference for SE or DE setup. I have ran both and personally prefer DE, but I might opt for SE if I was using the luminarcs or was keeping more of a mixed reef. I think you have a better selection of bulbs with SE, but if you really like the Phoenix 14k bulbs then go DE because they are cheap and have reasonably good PAR. Also if you want a DE setup I would recommend purchasing from "Ocean Encounters" I believe they are a TRT sponsor. Best prices I've seen, and I've helped others purchase setups from them. They have a really good DE setup by EVC that has everything you need to get going. Also has good reflector options.