Question for the married people here -

[Gforce3s]

How old were you all when you got married? My girlfriend and i have talkd about it, and she seems like she wants to within a year or two. We are both 19...i graduated from a technical college and working full time, shes still in college. We have been together for 6 years strong so far though...just wondering how old you all were. 20 or 21 wouldnt be so bad i dont think.

[dobejazz]

I was 33 and my husband was 38 when we got married. My First his second (I wasted a lot of years on an *****) Thankfully as it turns out or I wouldn't have met my husband

[tashier]

That's awful young, BUT sometimes it works out. I guess if you think you're ready.

[icebear]

like 25 or something... i'm 1 year older than him

[Nyles]

started dating my wife when she was 17, I was 18, married 3 years later... I am now 28 and still going good....

[Fly Guy]

Originally Posted by dobejazz

I was 33 and my husband was 38 when we got married. My First his second (I wasted a lot of years on an *****) Thankfully as it turns out or I wouldn't have met my husband

Lets see..... ***** five letter word.......yep...got it

Funny how things that arent so good might work out for the best in the long run. I can say a similar thing for myself as you Kelli.

[whatevva]

I started dating my wife when she was 14 and I was 16. I married her when she was 17.
We'll be celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary next year!!

[Casey]

27

[jenajet]

I was 18 he was 19. We dated off and on from the time I was 15. We are celebrating our 10 yr anniversary in December and are as happy today as we were when we got married. The first couple of years were ruff(I wanted to kill him at times) stuck it out, got over it and has been smooth sailing since. Lots of friends that married in high school or close to that were divorced soon after. You have to have a deep love and will to get thru the hard times and there will be some to make it work. When they say for better or worse it really makes sense. If you have any doubts that she may not be the one you want to wake up next to for the next 50 yrs or so then take your time and know for sure.

[Loverotties]

Lets see We just selibrated 18 yr ann. Sunday!We dated 8 years before getting married(we waited till both were done with school and landed a job)so I was 26 and She was 23.

[skeety]

First time I was married, I was 22. Thought I was old enough.

2nd time, I was 30. And this time, I have NO doubt she's the one.

What have I learned? My first marriage didn't fail cause I was young. But that helped. I know you think you've changed a lot already...but you'll change even MORE in your early 20's. If you both change in the same direction, you'll be fine. If not...

Point is...your ages (maturity) IS a factor, and will prove to be an obstacle (somewhat indirectly), but not an entirely impossible one. If she's the one, she's the one. Doesn't matter how old you are when you get married. But just make sure you're both sure. And that you're both ready (i.e. got the single life out of your system for the most part)

If you both truly plan to be together FOREVER....then you don't need to hurry. But that's just my opinion.

Either way, good luck!

[Sara7814]

started dating when i was 17, he was 23
moved in together after 6 months
had a few hard times... broke up for week in a half and realized what we had..going very strong since then
bought a house 1 1/2 ago
married now for 7 months - i was 20 he was 26 (still 20, him 26)

for us..it doesnt really seem different because we have lived together for a bit and bought a house. we both work. my parents werent to thrilled i was getting married young.. but all i have ever wanted is a family. we had a short engagement.. 4 months i think. a very easy going wedding.. nice with lots of family and friends.

if your ready then go for it.. lets just say its not cheap unless you run away and get married.
who will pay for it??
we had ours very down to earth, i was cheap on everything, it costed easily 10,000 out of our pockets. our parents helped but we didnt really think it was there job since we lived together for a while.

i think you should live together first though..things really change.. and i dont mean just for a couple months.. because at first you guys will be like oh i dont care whatever you want.. when really you do care.. it just causes problems later.

also..nothing against guys... but from my experiences they like to have there single time.. and party time.. dating so and so... then the BIG 21... i know you will both be 21 close at the same time..but that does factor.. (girls like it to..i know)

it was nice for me because my husband went through the partying/21yr old stage before me.
i did some partying in high school...and let me tell you..me and alcohol dont mix so me turning 21 isnt about getting drunk.. we are going for a different thing.

[Little Luey]

Originally Posted by skeety

If you both truly plan to be together FOREVER....then you don't need to hurry.

That is great advice. I was 27 and my wife was 24 when I married her, I am her 2nd husband, she is my first.

One thing we both say we wish we had done is to wait a little longer before having kids, we do not regret having them but we wish we had more time to enjoy each others company a little longer.

[Alice]

I always said I wouldn't get married until I was 25...but waited until I was 30. But by then, Steve and I had already been together almost 4 years and had our two sons - they walked us down the aisle. Well, Bryce was over 2 years old and walked, Evan had to be carried I don't recommend putting the cart before the horse for everyone, though, lol; it just worked out that way for us.

We had our daughter Miranda in '93 and have been together 18 years now - sheesh! where did the time go? - married for 14. His 2nd marriage, my 1st and I really think it helped us get through the rocky times because we had a little more life experience under our belts. For better or worse means just that, you can't walk away when times get rough, you need to work together to find the smooth road again.

Good luck to you, whatever you decide!

[Doug1]

I was 19, she was 18. We had been highschool sweethearts more or less, I moved away Senior year but wound up there after school and a few adventures, we got together and Bammmmmm, we got married in 71, still together tho we are the only ones outta 10 kids our parents had that married once and stuck it out, oh parents were married all these year, I lost my father a few years back but hers are alic\ve and kicking.
When it time, its time, but be sure