Hey Piero,
Here are some possible answers:
Why LFS don't want to host meetings:
1. They are their to make a living and don't really care about the hobbyist, except for how much they spend without disrupting their business.
2. Meetings typically disrupts their business for other customers who are not in the club and just want to shop.
3. Their place is not large enough and don't want to risk any accidents from over crowding.
Why don't LFS have a better relationship with each other?
1. Competition. That's why their prices are also different. Now that hobbyist are selling to each other or trading, and with the mail order prices, it is now harder for LFS to make a buck when they have to lower their mark up.
2. Most LFS owners used to work for another LFS. Bad blood.
3. The market is not that big. Consider how many are in the area you live in. Take a dollar and divide that into the number of LFS, then subtract a fraction from all but one and add the sum of the fraction to the one you visit frequent.
4. For a LFS to make it in this business, there has to be a compelling reason why you would want to visit them.
LFS owner participating in the forum.
1. They are tired after a long days work and don't want to deal with anymore fish problems.
Just my 2 cents.